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So, this process has been very interesting to watch.

I'm referring to the ruling (?) (non-ruling?) from the Supremes today regarding gay marriage in Utah and in a few other states. The whole thing has been very interesting to me, and involves some personal journeying of my own. What finally changed me forever, though, was someone I love very much saying - what difference does it make to your marriage, to your life, what other people do? If someone else marries another person of the same sex, what difference (really!) does it make to you?

The short answer - none. It makes absolutely no difference to me. Except, now people I know very well and admire are able to be together with their chosen life partners in all of the legal and appropriate ways. And I think that's marvelous. So, in reality, it does affect me - it makes me very happy.

And you know what else? Life goes on. Life is beautiful, and it's even more beautiful when you can share it with someone you love. Everyone deserves that. Everyone. EVERYONE.


Look at these mountains. I took this picture this morning, and I love how the sky arches over the majestic, craggy peaks. This is in a field behind a guy's house that lives in Mountain Green. In the foreground, you can see tire tracks, A little further away, there is evidence of people getting gravel out of the hill. Beyond that, the foothills and mountains rise above the valley floor. These mountains have been here for millions of years, and they will be here for a very long time. The point is, it puts in perspective. The societal changes and upheavals we go through are seemingly momentous, but often have short lives. So, never fear. people. Life goes on, and progress is made, even in fits and starts.

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lillysmum said…
As you doubtless guess, I was very happy to hear about the non ruling today. Two of my dear friends just got married on saturday, but did so in CA. Not much compares to the joy they felt on being able to join their lives together this way, unchanged by the fact that they are both men. I'm happy it can happen here. Joy is joy.
October 6, 2014 at 2:18 PM
lillysmum said…
EVERYONE deserves to share life with a loved one and to be loved. EVERYONE. Even those of us who feel less deserving, my dear.
October 6, 2014 at 2:20 PM
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