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This is Eye-opening...

https://www.yahoo.com/style/a-reporter-recently-wrote-an-article-titled-hey-101203121963.html

I am not even sure what to say to this. I knew it happened, I guess, but this is stunning. And embarrassing.

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lillysmum said…
I just had a debate with a guy over this. I said catcalling is rude and degrading and can be frightening. He said I should accept the compliment. I said that having someone shout "hey, wanna fuck?" Isn't a compliment. It's a guy letting me know that I am not in control of the space I'm in.
October 30, 2014 at 12:12 PM
lillysmum said…
Sorry for the language. Also, it's important to note that continual cat calling (and it is continual), creates a hostile environment for women. Even an "innocent" hello has escalated multiple times into threatening behavior, to the point that many women will ignore it based on past experiences. No one owes any stranger any response, whatsoever.
October 30, 2014 at 2:50 PM
Bill Cobabe said…
You're ok. Shucks, if you (or anyone) has to endure that kind of thing... Dang. I really have no words. How absolutely degrading and objectifying. There's no excuse. Just. No. Excuse.
October 30, 2014 at 3:09 PM
lillysmum said…
I've endured it regularly. If I'm not smiling then I get told to smile, if I don't, I get called a cold bitch. If I am smiling, I get the above, or similar, or hey baby, or what's up sexy. If I'm dressed less conservatively, well, you can imagi e
October 30, 2014 at 3:21 PM
Bill Cobabe said…
I'm reminded of the time when my mission companion called me out for staring at a woman's chest. I don't THINK I was looking, but the very idea that I MIGHT have been has given me great consternation ever since. I was (still am) very embarrassed, and since then I've made it a point to look everyone in the face when I'm talking. I may notice a person's shirt or attire, but it's (hopefully) not lecherous or objectifying. I mean, I like it when people notice the things I have on, especially when I've made some effort to look nice. But there's a very LARGE difference between that and staring. And I think we all know when that line has been crossed.
October 30, 2014 at 3:35 PM
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