Skip to main content

Feminist Daughter

Had an interesting conversation Saturday with my sweets. She asked about the wage gap and if I believed that it was a real thing...

So I went back (mentally) to this article:

http://www.vox.com/2016/8/1/12108126/gender-wage-gap-explained-real

and this video:



We discussed how this is a fairly complex thing - that as a society, women earn much less than men - something like 78 cents on the dollar, and that in the same profession (assuming the same level of experience and education) women earn 94 cents on the dollar. We talked about the fact that society views jobs traditionally occupied by women (teacher, nurse, secretary, etc) as being less valuable and that this contributes to part of the large-scale problem. And we talked that irrespective of the job - that is, people in the exact same position and functioning in exactly the same way - women earn less than men FOR NO GOOD REASON. Now, I understand that women have other responsibilities that they feel responsible for, including child care, for which there is no compensation. And women are biologically responsible for the birth of children, which can and does interrupt a woman's career. But there's just no good reason for women in parallel career tracks to make less. As I read somewhere - if I were in a position to hire people, I'd hire all women because I'd know they would work for less. Which is stupid.

She said - but there are things that men can do that women cannot because men are stronger and bigger. I said that that's true - that I can reach higher places than mom, for example, and most men do tend to be stronger and bigger than most women, which is just a biological fact. This means that men are generally better positioned to be baggage handlers and stevedores, better at lifting and moving heavy items... But that doesn't mean that those positions are necessarily more valuable, and it doesn't mean that they should be paid more or less...

So, interesting conversation. I love so much that she's thinking about these things. I told her that the reason I feel that I'm a feminist is not because I think women are better than men, but because I think women deserve to be treated the same as men - especially when it comes to pay and choice. I said that the feminists who view men as truly evil are really actually very few (although we strongly dislike the patriarchy that continues the subjugation of women). But what feminists really want is an equal chance for all, for every choice that a person (woman or man) to make is up to that person, and not some artificial societal construct. That these choices afforded to all help make up the rich tapestry of our society and provide strength, opportunity, and richness. Thus, all are celebrated for their choices, and all are supported and receive benefits based on their contributions, and  not on their gender.

Because I don't want to win something because I'm a dude. I want it to be because of merit and experience and expertise. Biology was determined when I was conceived... My destiny should be determined by my own hopes and dreams and aspirations and actions towards them.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Is this thing still on?

 Does anyone even blog anymore? I remember when it first got started and everyone was having a blog. I like writing, and I do a lot of it in my professional life, but not everything makes it onto this blog, which is where a lot of my personal thoughts come out. I put more into Facebook lately, too, because it's a little easier. But there's something to be said for this long-form writing exercise, and I think I will continue here periodically. You don't mind, do you? Well, in my last post I wrote about how difficult things were for me at the time. That changed in July when I finally got a job working for the State of Utah. I was the program manager for the moderate income housing database program, and that meant I worked from home a lot but also went in to Salt Lake when needed, mostly on the train. It was a good experience, for the most part, and I'm grateful for the things I learned even in the short time I was there.  In October I started working for Weber County in t...

The Other Art

I'm not sure we appreciate photography as much as we do other art forms. Part of this comes from the reality that surrounds and permeates a photograph - it's very, very real, and the photographer strives for clarity and crispness in the representations. Perhaps this is why black and white images continue to be relevant - they strip away extraneous information (color) and leave us with something that is at once familiar and also non-existent - for nothing exists in black and white. Nothing. I also think that pictures are becoming too common-place... Everyone has a camera in their pocket, and while that's a very democratic thing (everyone can express themselves in a picture easily and readily, and can find an audience for these images, which are casually taken and casually viewed, and perhaps just as casually forgotten) I think that we embrace that casual attitude, and it spills over to all aspects of the media, making it impotent. So I read this article this morning: h...

A Romantic Encounter

Him (tears in his eyes, heartbroken): I want you to know that I love you, that I'm sorry for my weakness and frailties, and that I will try and do better. I think I am doing better than I was before, and I just want to please you and make you happy. I am very grateful for your continued patience as I try to be the kind of man I want to be. Her: You need a haircut. It's getting a little long.